arrgh. its 112am. i have to wake up in 4 hours. and i still can't sleep. namamahay is the term. trying to get used to my new old place. old because im back where i grew up. new because it's a totally new house. so im adjusting. and im still so excited. so ive been tossing and turning. tried watching dvd. now online.
finally got the tv, blu ray assembled. amazing. im still blown away with the clarity of it. and now that system is happily settled where it was meant to be. am in the middle of matrix revolutions. and im reserving up for the weekend.
yesterday, an old friend, a high school classmate was in town. he had dinner here and we ended up chatting on the deck. he was so fired up about his business, his multi-level marketing business. and smart guy that he is, he was talking about how he influences people to sign up.
what struck me was his statement: if you've got a crystal clear goal in mind, and you're pretty clear about your values, there really is no reason why you shouldn't attain your goal. with that in mind, if you really want it badly, then you'll get it.
i told him i know of people whose expressed goal is to find TOFM, that soul mate. and some of them have remained SSB, single since birth. and boy do they want it so badly i could taste it.
maybe they werent specific about their goal? he asked.
how much more specific could you get with "i want to find the person i will love for the rest of my life"?
but they didnt specify what type, etc.
precisely because they dont want to limit it to types anymore. they pretty much are leaving that open, too! so how come they havent attained their goal?
maybe they dont want it badly enough.
huh?
think about it. ask them. at what cost is this search for true love? this is where the values matter. would they commit crime for it?
exagg naman ata yan.
yeah. but if you ask them would they be willing to go abroad, to relocate to find that true love? or would they be willing to give up their condos and share?
some of them say they want something really bad. but only on certain conditions. 'i want true love BUT.... he has to be from here. im not leaving manila.... BUT im not going to give up my lifestyle, etc. etc. etc.
it seems to me that they dont really want it THAT badly. they dont want to get out of their comfort zones to attain their goal. and that explains why they dont.
hmmm. what do you think?
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he is right. must people say they want it but...there is always a but. the pre-conditions are keeping people from getting what they really want.
I kind of agree and disagree.
It's not that they don't want it THAT badly and it's not about one's unwillingness to leave one's comfort zone.
It's more about finding the right person to make you leave your comfort zone. If you find the right person, then really you're comfort zone is where he is and not where you are at.
I kind of agree and disagree.
It's not that they don't want it THAT badly and it's not about one's unwillingness to leave one's comfort zone.
It's more about finding the right person to make you leave your comfort zone. If you find the right person, then really you're comfort zone is where he is and not where you are at.
tama lang naman that you don't give everything up for love... it's not love if you're willing to give your identity and your happiness for it.
tama lang naman that you don't give everything up for love... it's not love if you're willing to give your identity and your happiness for it.
Nice post CC!
I've been reflecting on thay myself these past few days--- goal setting!
Yes. Clarity is indeed the key. But sometimes it doesnt really work that way. Maybe when we are setting goals for the corporation because corporate goals are measurable.
But in love? Never sizeable! Never measurable!
Because in love, life, living, and relationship, sometimes what keeps us sane is just trust and hope altogether. Trust that it be be given to us. Hope that it will be in this lifetime!
A friend once said: sometimes the most important thing to do is nothing!
Cheers!
---HRH
Oh nice. For me lang, i set up my standards for a specific guy. After i meet someone who has similar traits to my liking, I give him a chance. Then, being human as we are, i do lower my standards and make compromises. I guess that's the secret of love and being happy. Hey, it works for me. :-)
Good luck and happy new year, CC!
korek ka dyan. as the old saying goes: kapag may tiyaga, may nilaga.
Interesting post.
i must agree with prince henry.
why should there be a premise when looking for love? isn't that the other way around? why not let LOVE find YOU instead of keeping YOUR mindset pressured just to attain one's goal? Besides when love strikes anyone, and if it is INDEED TRUE LOVE, it becomes immeasurable... so powerful that can even move MOUNTAINS! 1 Cor 13:1-13! So i really don't buy the idea claiming those premises. If we keep this thing in mind, we won't find true love and happiness in the long run. As someone once said so well, LOVE eludes the one who tries to get it, IT comes to the man who tries to get it for others.
Smiling,
PG
i am fantasizing about you for a while now cc... f*** me cc... damn it! let me feel your cum inside me... and let me bite those boobs u have... yummy ka talaga... so intellectually stimulating! grrrr...
-Ano
Keep posting stuff like this i really like it
love the comments, guys. palaisipan talaga eto. my take. it really forces you to ask how much do i really want that relationship.
@ano i blush.
flirting in the house ano bah ano
anyway I have been SSB and I dunno what to do and I dunno what I want na, flirt online, flirt sa gym, bar, intrenet chuva, do nothing, lahat na try ko na pero even lowering standards and even recycling para green, one thing for sure is I am just waiting for someone to like me and thats an understatement na, and I have to like him too or todo ako taray char
I think I'm built to be an old maid, anyway hard to cut yourself in the same mold, what if you are just plain and simply different, to accept what you are is the key to contentment and to listen to what you want and see the beauty of the simple joys you have, joy is joy nothing more nothing less for everyone
at putang ina yung iba diyan come and go in a relationship why can't a relationship feel like some take away or drive thru sa Jollibee and not some God forsaken lottery jackpot
and I am also surrounded by SSB people asking doing the same stuff...
yun lang po kanya kanyang keri ewan... but to look deep inside then you know that what you really want is not what comes your way and sometimes fate is a stubborn bitch that you just can't bargain
i dont know talaga even this comment doesn't make sense, I feel like I cannot get out of this High School block and give me some growing up time...
I am willing to give up, standing still, waiting, looking, waiting for the right rock to strike and break me whole
trust and hope
BING
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