(i swear this sounds like an SATC episode title)
a friend of mine just arrived from nyc. one of his chika was about this new term 'situationships'. the gels daw in nyc (at least the ones he hung around with) use this term as to mean that 'grey area' between a friendship and a relationship.
it seems that in nyc, people go on dating for months without becoming an item. this situationship best describes what they have: a situation where they see each other, go out on dates BUT are not exclusive, not committed. definitely, no 'i love you's'. but sure, they have sex. plenty of it. not just with each other.
i found the term cute. and it's not even "m.u." as we would refer to here in pinas circa 70's. haha. m.u. or mutual understanding is really just that final, final stage before "i love you". usually, there's already dating exclusivity. and there's an amount of accountability (nagpapaalam kung saan pupunta).
and its not fubu. of course you knew that already. i mean fubu is fubu, purely recreational without the exchange of currency. pang-olympics pero isang teammate lang.
so there you have it, a new term fresh from nyc. how many of you are into situationships? or is this such a western concept? pwede ba eto sa pinas? could the pinay gels actually just go on dating? or are we more emotional than that? or more 'commitment oriented?'
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I think our society is so pro-monogamy that it "pressures" people to make their relationships mutual as soon as possible, and frowns upon open, non-mutual set-ups. This of course does not mean that situationships don't exist here; it may even be prevalent, except that people don't talk about it.
However I also believe that we Pinoys are becoming more and more familiar and open with set-ups like situationships.
Thanks, Mcvie! So true!
Very well said.
Also, the infiltration and domination of catholicism brought forth countless taboos to our society- including that of relationships. oh well.
i think im into one now, hehehe...
im not surprised with that situationships na mangyayari sa NYC. sa bilis ng panahon dito and with so much things in mind, wala ng time for commitment yung iba. with pressure from work and the busy city itself, talagang ang bilis-bilis mong mastress out. why add drama to life dahil sa mga commitment na yan when you can get convenience out of the situationships.
sa circle of friends ko naman, lahat sila may BFs and they commit to the relationship. so that might not be true sa lahat ng tao dito sa NYC. after all, may kanya-kanya naman tayong preferences eh.
i like your blog. =)
dave, do you mean that we resort to situationships because Catholicism has shunned the idea of M2M relationships?
josh, is it with one of your doves? LOL! hahaha. kwento mo naman...
hello gharyjohn! welcome! i guess your NYC situation is not a situationship! hehe. are your friends pinoys?
same meaning with fubu or friends... with benefits...
one of my doves? errrr... actually you can call it dat siguro... my doves as in my links in my blog, hehehe.... and i just did it! :)
hello lucky - much more than a fubu. there must be interest beyond sex!
am so happy for you josh!!! i must check your blog soon!
err... i'm not blogging my own going situationship, hehehe... i will only send them as emails, bwahahah.... as if naman Xciting nangyari sakin no, bwahahaha.
oh come on, josh.. why not blog about it? hahaha. send me email. make me kwento!!!
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