people, i want to hear your thoughts. online romance, anyone? currently in it? or have been in one? or know of couples who met online?
by definition: totally no contact in the real world prior to meeting online. could be through any online means: blog, g4m, mIRC, fb, friendster, YM
in a presentation i watched recently, as much as 30% of american couples met online. im amazed at the figures. a few months back, fabcasters were at tristan's despedida and we were surrounded by online couples (mostly through the blog).
i have a few questions:
why the popularity?
are the chances of relationship success higher or lower because the couple met online? why?
how do you increase chances of relationship success for an online romance?
how do you 'sift the chaff from the grain', knowing the plethora of posers, nuisance players out there?
11 comments:
it's still the same banana. just served in a different way =)
why the popularity? its the 21st century. its normal. and the internet is now part of our lives
are the chances of relationship success higher or lower because the couple met online?why? Depends really. as long sa you're willing to make it work out with someone-its all about compromising and understanding each other.
how do you increase chances of relationship success for an online romance? be a whore. it works :-p
how do you 'sift the chaff from the grain', knowing the plethora of posers, nuisance players out there? instincts. thats why you have 'em.
Popular because it is fun, they say. Popular AND dangerous for the serious at heart.
why the popularity? BECAUSE IT IS CHEAPER TO GO ONLINE THAN GO ON MULTIPLE DATES AND FIND OUT ABOUT YOUR POTENTIAL MATE'S CHARACTERISTICS ONE AT AT TIME AS DATES HAPPEN. YOU CAN ALREADY SEE HOW THE PERSON LOOKS EVEN BEFORE THE ACTUAL DATE AND DECIDE IF YOU WISH TO PROCEED OR NOT.
are the chances of relationship success higher or lower because the couple met online? SAME why? DEPENDS ON THE PERSON. REGARDLESS OF WHERE AND IN WHAT WAY YOU MEET HIM, SCUM IS SCUM.
how do you increase chances of relationship success for an online romance? BY BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF AND TO THE OTHER PARTY, OPEN LINES OF COMMUNICATION.
how do you 'sift the chaff from the grain', knowing the plethora of posers, nuisance players out there? TAKE YOUR CHANCES. HIT OR MISS. THAT'S HOW IT IS IN THE REAL WORLD.
- fenestrations
some people are more comfortable communicating non-verbally?
if i knew the answers, cc, i'd be in a relationship right now.
LOL
depends if it is used as a place to relate to strangers or a tool to overcome other technologies of communication.
nothing. it is just a way of meeting people.
I think "online romance" as you call it, is something one can only dream of.. Idk, but by experience, it never seems to work the way normal romances do.. Its full of lies, deceit and false hopes.. Pero who knows? Maybe its just me.. I could have been getting bad catches.. I'm still hopeful tho that i'll find my match some day..
Hm, online romance.
I'm not a big believer, although I'll have to eat my words because I always did say "It's not the venue, it's the person."
Why am I not so sold on it? Many reasons. There's a great deal of misrepresentation on the net, to being with. It's like the motto of the U.S. Marines: "Be all you can be!" And a lot of times, all you can not. Anyone who's been sent a photo of some gorgeous guy who looks nothing like the person he finally EBs can attest to that.
There's also a great deal of flirting online, which also leads to a great deal of temptation. The internet really has allowed us to cast even bigger nets to snag all sorts of fish, and weave ever more intricate webs of deceit and falsehoods to trap the unwary.
I'll leave the validity of a purely web-based "romance" vs. a relationship IRL to someone else, but lest you think I'm such a doomsayer, I will say that I have formed many lasting friendships through the internet. Friendships that have lasted till this day, long after the last sexy thing has broken my heart, stolen my money, and jaundiced my perceptions.
i bet the rate of incompatibility in online meet-ups are the same as that of the real world dating scenario.
no difference, really. :)
Wow. I learned so much, instead. Thanks for the post. And the comments. I wanted to say that online's just another playing field, and may not at all be a lot different than "out there".
Truly depends on the parties involved, methinks.
But all of these had already been mentioned.
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