Tuesday, June 5, 2007

prinsipyo Part 2

Case 2

i have a girl friend (note the spelling) who's based in the U.S. for the longest time, she was TNT. finally she was able to hook up with a cute american who married her and her papers are being processed as we speak. the sad note to this otherwise happy ending is the cutie american is not exactly mr perfect. let's just say he has anger management problems. (no, nothing physical but verbal) before they got married, it was getting pretty bad that she told her sisters about it. naturalmente, her sisters (settled U.S. citizens with families) were totally against the relationship. but despite that, cutie american mended his ways and went through counselling (oh di ba?). so girl friend welcomed him back and they got married.

sisters remain highly suspicious and critical of the relationship. so they have started to distance themselves from girl friend. it was their way of telling her of their disapproval. girl friend continues to reach out but gets shut out. i guess that as long as she remains married to him, they will remain cold.

different spin:

should sisters continue to stay cold and distant because they believe he is the wrong man for her?

is this a case of 'standing your ground', wanting to see someone you love correct her behavior by changing your own behavior towards her?

6 comments:

joelmcvie said...

Unlike in your case 1, case 2 is about sister, blood relatives. In the Filipino context, iba ang pagtrato--at level ng pakikialam--kung kapamilya.

closet case said...

true, mcvie. i guess you approve of how sisters are reacting to girl friend?

joelmcvie said...

I do not necessarily approve, simply because I don't know the whole story. At the same time, I can also think of understandable reasons why they would be cold and distant.

Some questions come to mind: Is the "cold and distant" treatment by the sisters real, or is it just an act? Are they cold and distant only when girl friend is with her husband, or do they talk to her when she's alone with them? Are the sisters keeping distant because they're the type of persons who cannot lie and be diplomatic to girl friend; thus, their distancing is their way of preventing hurtful slips of the tongue on their part?

Anyway, don't bother answering those questions here. Things like these are best discussed in person. :-)

closet case said...

love the points of view, mcvie.. looking forward to a stimulating discourse on this...

Q The Conqueror said...

Hmmm... Reminds me of Gretchen, Marjorie and Claudine. hehehe.

From what I understood, they are distancing themselves from her because of disapproval. However, I think, now is the time to show support for the sister even more, and being more visible to the husband. So if hubby starts again, they are easily at hand and ready to protect her if needed.

closet case said...

lol. you're right! the barretto sisters! i agree with you. i wish sisters supported her more during this time...