Sunday, March 18, 2007

loyalty or fidelity

i met a gorgeous hunk. i had my stereotype hat on so i wasn't expecting much by way of conversation. i really shouldnt judge him because he isnt a book. and it was such a pleasant surprise to see brains behind the pecs, the biceps and the glutes (well its not REALLY behind the pecs). i quote him: i believe gays in relationships could be loyal but not faithful.
two different things. what does loyalty mean in a gay relationship? i will stick by your side, protect you from evil, defend you from your enemies. but let me suck cock elsewhere. hmmm. that's how compartmentalized we are. compartmentalization is a great coping mechanism - putting things neatly into little boxes. (part of the filing system of our minds). it certainly works for me. i am loyal and unfaithful. sounds like an AA introduction.
so what's wrong with that? i dont know but somehow sometimes i feel its not right. loyalty and fidelity. or is this just a heterosexual construct meant to preserve the institutions? and we are forced to fit this construct into our homosexual lifestyle.
great conundrum for me.
but then again, i did enjoy the hunk, brains and all. :)

8 comments:

justin said...

loyalty and fidelity. great way to put it. i've always demanded loyalty but not fidelity (this one is a freedom of choice for me).

Anonymous said...

tsktsktsk.

it always starts like that... casual one nighters then to casual car rides then before you know it, you'll be wanting more and more and more...

i hope you don't end up like my ex... wherein he turned to be a regular nympho, now he's been fluttering through guys because one just isn't enough

closet case said...

"regular nympho" - do i detect bitterness? just kidding.
i do want more and more. but i've become quite picky, too. the bar's being raised everytime.

f i l l i b u s t e r o said...

tipong kamutin kita, kamutin mo ko, pero if there are places beyond each other's reach, have somebody else scratch it for you.

closet case said...

napakasarap kamutin ang tunay na makati. kaso minsan maski abot na ng kasama mo, masarap pa rin ang iba ang kumamot. hay.

f i l l i b u s t e r o said...

@closet case: amen! hay.

Anonymous said...

Why the dichotomy? "Loyalty-fidelity"? Isn't it enough to be realistic about you and your partner's character or needs before one embarks on a relationship?

Anonymous said...

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