i met a gorgeous hunk. i had my stereotype hat on so i wasn't expecting much by way of conversation. i really shouldnt judge him because he isnt a book. and it was such a pleasant surprise to see brains behind the pecs, the biceps and the glutes (well its not REALLY behind the pecs). i quote him: i believe gays in relationships could be loyal but not faithful.
two different things. what does loyalty mean in a gay relationship? i will stick by your side, protect you from evil, defend you from your enemies. but let me suck cock elsewhere. hmmm. that's how compartmentalized we are. compartmentalization is a great coping mechanism - putting things neatly into little boxes. (part of the filing system of our minds). it certainly works for me. i am loyal and unfaithful. sounds like an AA introduction.
so what's wrong with that? i dont know but somehow sometimes i feel its not right. loyalty and fidelity. or is this just a heterosexual construct meant to preserve the institutions? and we are forced to fit this construct into our homosexual lifestyle.
great conundrum for me.
but then again, i did enjoy the hunk, brains and all. :)