true motivation

kevin: speaking as a gay man, i've never been able to master the art of being faithful
scott: oh that. that's too bad... but then you cant be faithful to anything until you know why you should.

wow. nice, nice line. im slowly being mesmerized by brothers & sisters. im just at season 1, episode 5. but i love this line.

its all about wanting something really bad. how badly do you want something... or someone? and it applies to those big things that we seem to have so difficulty with - losing weight, quitting smoking, being faithful...

if faithfulness, or the lack of it, is a deal-breaker for that one person, that one soul in this universe, wouldn't i want to be faithful and keep peace with my soulmate forever?

how badly do you want to quit smoking? chances are, those who cant seem to quit just haven't found that one motivation to quit. and it varies from one person to the next. it may be the thought of dying an agonizingly painful death from lung cancer. but if you're young, that doesnt bother you. or it's setting a bad example to your kids. or finally realizing that you're not just responsible to yourself but to other people, people you love.

people are amazed at how much fat ive lost. im proud of what ive achieved. but it's really just motivation. i found a very good reason to go after that ideal weight. vanity. i just wanted to look my best... ever. (i sound like a colegiala). but that motivation may not be enough for others.

faithfulness and me. ive tried being faithful to ex-partner. i found a good reason why i should. (he was going to strangle me with his bear hands. LOL.) of course that good reason faded. =) though i know im an incorrigible flirt, ill probably go exclusive for the right person... or persons. hahaha..

how do you know if you've found the right motivation? i guess it comes from real self-awareness. or it could just happen by chance. keep on trying to do that one challenging things and examine what's the motive this time. see if you stick to it.