Sunday, July 12, 2009

making time

a thoughtful friend asked me during a get-together "are you really ready for relationship?"

oo naman! i really feel im ripe for a relationship now. handang-handa na ako.

eh kasi parang wala ka namang oras. ang busy-busy mo lagi. nagtuturo ka pa. may negosyo ka pa.

his words made me think really hard.

i know you are such a catch. but how could you be caught if you're always moving. you're not allowing yourself to be caught. baka ayaw mo pa talaga.

another friend joined in.

oo nga. tapos gusto mo pang magturo sa u.p.? eh ano pa ang matitira sa oras mo?

i rebutted.

yeah pero di ba, kung makahanap kami ng common time, de parang yun na yun. parang meant for each other.

i still think you need to stand or sit still for a moment. baka nga nandyan na ang hinahanap mo kaso ikaw naman ang di mahagilap.


now, im giving this matter serious thought.

am i really ready? or am i really prioritizing being single and being able to take advantage of the opportunities around? is it really time for me to slow down and sit still for a moment, regularly?

8 comments:

migs, the manila gay guy said...

What does it mean "to stand or sit still for a moment"?

I'm almost sure this does not mean stop making the most of your time and talent... i.e., to while away time in baang coffee waiting for your prince charming -- di naman siguro ganun, di ba?

I'm just curious what your friends meant with standing still.

Unknown said...

just a question...

how much are you willing to sacrifice to have or to be in a relationship?

because it is, a sacrifice. the kind that you won't mind doing.

Ming Meows said...

ikaw naman kasi trabaho ng trabaho. nakakahinga ka pa ba...

closet case said...

hi mgg. hope munich is turning out to be a pleasant surprise! i guess my friend/s were coming from this angle: they noticed how hard it was to invite me to simple get-togethers because of my tight schedule. i think they are referring to making sure i include in my life downtime, times where i just relax and am not rushing.

hey friedreich. id like to think that i am willing to give up a lot of things for someone i love, like some of my extra-curriculars, etc.

oo nga, ming_meows. when i became single again, i grabbed each and every opportunity and used up all my time...

Mac & Hubbee said...

i think you're mind is ready, as what it tells you. it's just the world who is not yet ready to give one to you. marami ka pa daw pwedeng gawin and time is of the essence. i think, matatagalan ka pa, i think lang ha. kasi, andito pa ako (now that's the joke part). but seriously, i think you're heart will still have a hard time to commit. i just hope i am wrong...

Dats said...

siguro kasi masaya ka sa ginagawa mo, bihira din kasi dumating yung mga opportunities,ika nga sabi nila 'when it comes grab it-it'll only knocks once...kaso fate/destiny or life isnt fair---- we cant have everything...may relayson nga, di ka naman masaya?
mapera ka, wala ka naman true friend?
may karelasyon ka at mapera, wala ka naman pamilya?
may kareslyon ka, mapera, may pamilya, may kasalan kanaman, walang faith...you know what I mean CC...
kaya maswerte ka parin..
you have a great family, lalo na your parents, you have good quality friends-infact very influencing pa nga eh...you had your share with your previous relationship naranasan mo lahat----LUCKY ka parin amongst all of us!
you have all the time in your hands!
kaya IDOL kita!

joelmcvie said...

I disagree that being busy equates to "not allowing yourself to be caught".

The idea that "baka nga nandyan na ang hinahanap mo kaso ikaw naman ang di mahagilap" assumes that this person is already in contact with you. If he is and you don't even notice him, then obviously you're NOT that interested in him in the first place... and most likely you not going to be that into him either.

If that person just hovering around you is attracted to you but is not doing anything about it, IT'S HIS LOSS, NOT YOURS. Totorpe-torpe ang kumag eh. And if he's attracted to you and you haven't noticed him by now, then the attraction is one-way. He's better off snapping out of his "unrequited attraction" phase.

Just do the things you want to do while you can still do them because you have the time. Kasi no matter how busy you are, if someone grabs your attention, you'll make time for him... and he likewise (dapat lang). Both of you will adjust.

closet case said...

whoa crazy tl! i also hope you're wrong! hehehe

dats, thanks so much. you are blessed yourself! dont ever forget that, dats! :)

i think my friend was attacking this on a more conceptual, abstract level rather than on a specific person who may be around, mcvie. my being too pre-occupied with day-to-day is a deterrent to being free to meet other people.