This issue seemed so far from me. And anything which is far and alien I would rather be silent about. I remember encountering The Jonas Bagas for the first time 3 years ago, maybe. He was someone's date at a party. And unfortunately, I haven't heard of his activist persona yet. I engaged him briefly on conversation about this issue, but taking a contrarian perspective.
Again, it seemed so alien to me. At that time, I was thinking: why rock the vote and invoke the ire of so many people by fighting for issues like same-sex marriage? Even though I had been in many relationships, I never felt compelled to formalize my union or even legalize it. I was perfectly fine with being boyfriends forever and ever, amen. As I know a lot of gay couples were.
That being a party, Jonas didn't debate nor argue. And he so calmly just explained why that was needed, not for himself, but for the community. I can't remember now what he actually said. But I just knew that the issue remained alien to me.
PC and I would talk some time about whether we wanted to 'formalize' the relationship further with marriage, should the option be available eventually. Of course, we would laugh about who wears the gown. Or discuss the beauty of garden weddings. But again, we didn't feel we would go through that. He was so sweet to tell me, though, that if I wanted it and it mattered to me, he would gladly get married to me.
But after watching that video, tearful and emotional, I realized how real suddenly the need to be 'recognized legally' as a couple. A partner's death seemed to have erased a significant part of his life because the partner's family refused to acknowledge the relationship. All that was material between them seemed to have been brought to the grave.
Like it or not, as a couple, there will always be a physical, material and even financial dimension to the relationship. Sooner or later, there will be joint ownerships in real assets. Because these are manifestations of a deepening attachment to one another. Yet without the 'security' of a legal recognition of these 'joint acquisitions', why would couples even start to build a real, tangible 'us' rather than just 'you' and 'me'? Of course this is only the material aspect of marriage. And there are many other reasons why same-sex unions should be legalized. But this particular argument, or dimension, was what got me thinking about this on a real level.
And with Obama coming out, finally, for the issue...
, I believe that the issue has finally turned a corner. Finally.
But we in the Philippines, are advised to hold the celebrations that it would happen here soon. Read this thoughtful article by Jonas Bagas. I totally agree with him on. And I love the way he framed the argument as a constitutional rather than biblical battle. Even for gay Catholics like me.
So now, I do have an opinion on Same-Sex marriages. We must have that option available to us.