Tuesday, February 5, 2008

rightly suspicious or too malicious


hey people, consider this:

you've been privy to your lover's phone bills (landline & mobile). and you notice a recurring mobile number. some of those landline to mobile calls last 30minutes or more. on the mobile billing, you noticed the same number, texted everyday, averaging 3x a day from the u.s. during your lover's 3wk visit there. and you backtrack on the bills and note that this has been going on for months.

you get suspicious and call the number. guy answers. the guy whom your lover calls as 'one of his badminton buddies'. the guy you actually met before because your lover tagged him along during one of your games.

during the call you fumble and just say that you saw the number and you were just confirming the owner. you say hi in passing (since he recognized you when you introduced yourself) and hang up.

you're standing there wondering what to do next.

first of all, should you be suspicious? or are you being too malicious? next, what would you have done?

18 comments:

raffy said...

Noticed, wondered, called, discovered, and suspected.....

Ask, confront, discuss, be ready to get hurt....

hopefully...

an honest answer to legitimate concerns.

gharyjohn said...

you have every right to be suspicious. but then you can ask him personally. you've been honest to him and hopefully he will be to you.

besides, why would the friend hang up if there's nothing wrong or give you a call back if there was a connection failure.

be suspicious. be very very suspicious. LOL!

gbic said...

"you" as in "i"?

hay naku, yan ang problema sa mga self-righteous. iwanan mo na kasi =)

JOSH said...

OMG! no, idont want to hear about this! Fictional ba 2 cc, a hypothetical question? i think iwanna cry.... shutz

Anonymous said...

sounds too familiar to me. but the difference is i did not bother to call the number. I have a friend who works for the telephone company who owes me a favor. I had the number investigated, name, birthday , address , everything. Confronted partner but he denied that there was something happening between the both of them. a few months down the road we broke up and he got together with the guy.

Moral of the story... trust your gut feel and never say sorry for what you feel.

lobster-tony said...

Ay sis, better to talk to your partner than to sulk and move about in the shadows pretending to be a detective.

f i l l i b u s t e r o said...

lagot tayo diyan!
curiosity could kill.

Quentin X said...

It's an issue of trust. Would one trust another to tell the truth without being asked?

dr magsasaka said...

I agree. Talk to him.

geloph said...

your blogsite has already been an epic of your moral struggles... hope you discuss (confronting is almost accusing him of something baka they're fencing partners din pala) this matter with mr. partner...with a letter opener in another hand (kidding).

there must be something in your relationship worth salvaging. this dubious character needs to be deleted in this storyline.

geloph said...

your blogsite has already been an epic of your moral struggles... hope you discuss (confronting is almost accusing him of something baka they're fencing partners din pala) this matter with mr. partner...with a letter opener in another hand (kidding).

there must be something in your relationship worth salvaging. this dubious character needs to be deleted in this storyline.

Dave Ramirez said...

ask outright.
... and if there is something, sort things out.

"maraming nasosolusyunan ang magandang usapan."

YAJNAT said...

be malicious...

its high time for both of you to recognize that its not only you who is playing around but also him...

gibo said...

ask and hopefully get an honest reply. i agree with raffy, be prepared to get hurt.

John Halcyon von Rothschild said...

Well I would suggest just talking to him and proving that that guy is just a friend. Think of yourself as on probation and your partner as your probation officer.

This relationship thing is a motherfucker. Let me tell you, I thought that I would enjoy going out with a jealous type of guy. But instead, everyday it's like I'm being interrogated. God forbid I don't call him once on his lunch break.

Anyway, back to your problems.

Just talk to him Honey. The two of you have too much time and emotions invested on this. You'll pull through it.

fratboyinthecloset said...

I have to second Josh's comment... *sniff* *sniff*

I'd still like to seek for positive assumptions on such a nerve wracking thought.

1. Badminton bud might just be his trusted confidant when your relationship was on the rocks and his trust was tested.
2. Badminton bud might be the reason why Mr. Partner is still holding on to the relationship, constantly advising Mr. Partner to hold on to his love and to try to forgive and let go.
3. Badminton bud, might only be Mr. PArtner's recent best friend, confidant, shoulder to cry on, but never the concubine.

My intention is not to give false hopes but just for us to give partner the benefit of a doubt. I'm hoping... praying... that my assumptions, theory, and dreams are true...

*sniff* *sniff*

closet case said...

thanks, people. my comments on another post.

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