season 3, episode 5: carrie posts this question? where do you draw the line with a love? how much are you willing to give up and what will you not for a relationship?
for charlotte: it was bad kissing. really baaad kissing. for samantha: it was not having the balls to stand up to the sister. for aidan: it was smoking.
looking at my list of exes, i tried to mentally list down reasons for quitting (in all but one of those relationships, i said goodbye) and i realized that for some, i had to draw the line.
- violence. under no circumstance will i go on with anybody who is physically abusive. and one of them was.
- long distance. very recent learning. i will not get into any relationship that will involve physical separation of more than 6 months.
- effeminacy. with me as benchmark. no one more pa-girl than me.
conversely, the following were not dealbreakers but would make me think twice...
- smoking (since i dont smoke)
- religion (methodist, iglesia, born again)
- bad sex (or at the least, sexual incompatibility including a power top who wants me to bottom)
- profession (in the arts and culture)
- IQ (he doesnt need to be a genius)
- grammar and pronunciation (no froblem)
what's your dealbreaker?
10 comments:
Reading between the lines, is your partner a butch bottom?
My categories for a partner would be
(1)older than me, though I've come to realise that maturity doesn't really equate with age;
(2) an IQ that wouldn't need me to translate simple sentences to nursery rhymes (or at least repeat them thrice and still wouldn't get it, understandable kung nabibingi ka, I get that too sometimes);
(3) Clean. in all aspect (no drugs, no halitosis, no STD... tattoos and piercings are ok, but do not overdo it)
(4) Baggages. (emotional and all) A considerable amount is ok, I have them too. Who doesn't? Dump your sadness on me, but don't make our lives look like a telenovella. Give me some happy thoughts from time to time.
(5) Career. I really don't care so long as you can prove that you can be independently stable.
(6) Effeminate. Not to discriminate, just a preference. I don't want to find myself myself with all bruises becoz I was found by my frat bros making pa sweet sweet with Sweet (feeling John Lapuz). Rocker long hair is sexy but if you're sporting a long one, and swaying it like you're in a beauty pageant. Forget it.
(7) language. I've developed a petpeeve for vulgar language (occassional PI, shit, and wtf is ok but don't overdo it); and also gay language (I can get some parts, but you'd probably find me with a nosebleed later on). So consider (insert shrill sound) "Ang putang inang iketch!" an overkill.
Madami pa, poro I'll stop na from here. Pero sabi nila,
bad blowjob. that's it.
you can teach someone how to kiss. you can teach someone how to fuck.
but with a blowjob? it's something personal to me. tells me how much you want me. so when you do the deed, do it well. or else, there's the door.
and the ones who think this is shallow are REALLY the shallow ones.
yipes, my present situationship s an iglesia, yikes! hahaha,should not be more effem than u, hehehe. so ur a top pala??? (sori for ds too personal question CC)
and i aint tell, quent! hahaha
JAFITC: thanks, thanks for sharing this! do i put this on the classifieds? hahaha!
hey kai! yeah. bad blowjob sucks. pun intended. hahaha
really, josh! just curious: how do you get around talking about religion since i take it that you're quite a devout Catholic? you dont have to answer here... email me!
just wondering why you would think twice if someone was a methodist.
i dont know anything peculiar with methodists.
- chain smoker ... light and considerate smoker i can tolerate and might even enjoy kissing after he had one stick ... recently acquired taste from you know how.
- more effeminate than me or even close to my level is not good enough. best someone who can pass off as straight
- indecisive ... hate it when i ask where to eat and he toss me back the same question
- similar brainwave (length). need not be super intelligent, but is important that we are on the same wavelength. otherwise communication is a problem and being on the second date will be like torture.
- as for sex, no bottom, prefer no vers, totally top is how i like it ... not that i am a good bottom ... but i must be the only girl in the relationship.
- age ... as i grow older ... the younger group as larger and sexier. but refer to the brain wave item above. it covers juvenile, immature and unstable personalities. because of that sometimes i prefer older guys although there are some younger guys that meets the criteria
- BIG NO NO .... personal hygiene. dont mean digging nose, occasional forgetting to brush the teeth or skipping a shower ... all these are the line, anything worse than that like body odour regardless of how many showers he has taken or always black and dirty nails etc is definitely a NO NO
mr anonymous. i put in methodist there because i had an ex who was methodist. nothing peculiar really!
matevam. what your lover puts you through! LOL. and personal hygiene is way up there. you are so pinoy! hehehe
i love the blowjob thingie kai said :) it could really tell a lot... i just realized a while ago :)
somebody had a good time *winks at dave*
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